Hello wonderful people,
I have decided to take heed to Sue Fitzmaurice’s quote. Why? Because I feel as though we have to accept sometimes other people’s cultures and values are not compatible to ours, so therefore they become offended. Whether it be a post on Facebook, some artwork, or, sharing same sex toilets, or even having a debate. So, without further adieu; I want my readers to prepare “the two fingered salute”.
Has any one noticed?? Those who do not accept other’s cultures, or those whom are too busy complaining about something which is biological, or, ideological, for example raising conflicting arguments about: gender, sex, religion and stereotypes (do you realise you are stereotyping yourself?) e.t.c; – – – – – – are perhaps creating conflict which leads to war, poverty, injustice and greed? Perhaps they are creating this mammoth shift of weirdness which is not wonderful? Perhaps we should prepare our fingers to show a gesture of dislike? Perhaps you just feel your all your stress evaporating away as your fingers raise to the screen?
Why do we not Stop being offended by Facebook posts?
When we start to take offence to everything we put up a barrier and hate our neighbours. I would like to point out, in a weird way; I do not hate my neighbours, I love sleep. Sleep is important to people. I know lots of people whom are sleep deprived, let’s face it parenthood is not really all about the wonderful pictures you put out on Facebook.
Why would I want to complain about people juggling their daily lives? Two fingers are almost raised to a full salute. (Just part way, I am getting warmed up.)
Being a parent is about the hard work and the love you put into your relationship with your child. Well done, I have acknowledged you. So being offended by your friends family pictures is just weird. Even when it comes to my neighbours having kids that cry for an hour every day concerns me because they are waking up crying. I want to know what is wrong and how to help them have a better day.
For those whom complain about family photos on Facebook, or pictures of cats or dogs: automatic two fingered salute. Stop being offended by nice things. (See this helps reduce peoples aggression levels.)
For those whom are offended by political posts on Facebook. Please, stop being offended and take part in the debates. Open your minds, by trying to discuss things between friends, by being open and engaging conversation about the most annoying things in the world. If you are passive then you have to do a dare, this will help you develop some courage. We all need the courage and the confidence to speak out about things, maybe your friends can help you.
Perhaps discuss the news and try to see a way past the bad, or, give things the two fingered salute and be happy that you have expressed something about it.
For those of you whom have abandoned Facebook. Please try a site called MINDS and participate in discussions there about the video’s you see. Try an alternative view.
How can we stop being offended by a piece of art?
Art is meant to be controversial. It is meant to provoke a reaction from people and create a critical view point. Please, allow me to defend art for a moment. Art is something which we do not see every day in our world’s. Now all of a sudden people want to make things which are abstract and obscure other’s are not able to find the meaning. Therefore, people become offended.
We would rather form really negative opinions on something, instead of just accepting it is a thought or it is the freedom of thought which helps create beautiful pieces of art. If people are repressed then, perhaps they create abstract art.
Challenging our way of thinking is seen as a battle between fears, values and beliefs. It is like having a battle with your id, your ego and your super ego. As soon as this conflict happens within we go through a fight, or flight response. Sigmund Freud and he wrote about defence mechanisms in our brain. Well, if we hate things this much and then we behave as though we are suffering displacement.
Is there any need for an aggressive stance on things, just because it made you feel a little weird inside?
Many of us suffer from sublimation , as well – come on … we carry out tasks and then we are always competing or feeling the need to change things. There is no need.
If this is how we are meant to progress then… why fight it?
Our routine and structure as we become older means we have less and less time to appreciate these things; although, I did take a picture of the crack in the floor at the Tate modern museum once and thought about all the jokes I could bestow upon people:
“I visited the Tate Modern and had a cracking good time. “
“I saw a cracking piece of artwork “
“What can be seen as a hair line fracture is a big crack close up!”
“Did someone forget to buy the poly filler?
Goodness, me making a mockery of things just proves; what is the point to being so factious about art?
So art makes us question our religious integrity as well, for example Charlie Hebdo was a comic book which made people question the intentions of religion. Although, we are not allowed free speech really, come on…. because, we protect some religions and cultures, because we are afraid that they will not treat us with respect…. let us be frank… we are being kind and virtuous to one another because tolerance, makes people look good.
However, art is one of those freedom of expression which can challenge certain ideologies. So why be offended when it makes us think?
Two fingered salute to those who oppress the way in which people can think or have a different way of seeing things.
You get a two fingered Salute for being offended by art…. just try so hard to intellectualise the mater by being critical. This is the only way forward for humanity. This is the only way forward for certain cultures to get along, harmoniously.
This is what we need as humans and I really think that when it was written in the Human rights act to respect other peoples beliefs and their freedom of expression, we would all be somewhere in space by now because it is the 21st century after all. Here we are with a handful of people holding us back with the dinosaurs that they are. I am not a Scientologist… I just watched a lot of star trek.
How can we stop being offended by sharing spaces?
We as humans are meant to have the flexibility to choose what we wish to be. I know our parents force us as children to do certain things. However, when we were teenagers, we rebelled and we had fun finding out who we were. Our brains behave like they are maps with different roads, or paths we can take. The GPS signal is on all the time and it can work offline too! If we choose to go down another route, it makes us happy. If we are forced to go down a route we are not comfortable with, we become angry.
As for people showing affection, I do not care if gay people are together. I only imagine my own relatives, or a close friend being murdered over them offending someone, for kissing just because they are gay and they did this in public.
Personally, I do not care if I have to share a toilet with a transgender person. It does not bother me, they are happy and it does not affect me in the slightest. They are not wearing my shoes, or harming me physically….. I do not care. I care about the person not what they have done to others and not what they have decided for themselves. We used to be told about autonomy and I think this is what it is. It is about treating people with a modicum of respect and enough compassion to see that they are human and if I had to go through those changes…. I would want to be treated like this.
I like people who criticise others on the way in which they are behaving and blowing things out of proportion. Like a sceptic. He sees one side and then is negative about another because it needs to be done. We are human and that means we strive to perfection. Anything that hurts our group or network, we criticise.
Which brings me back to the debate point. You get a two fingered salute for not sticking to your opinion and holding down to your opinions like your life depends on it. You are human and people need to respect who you are.
How do we make sure we have fair representation?
I think some cultures feel as though they like to oppress women still… but lets be honest about feminists… whose side are you on??? You get a two fingered salute for not understanding that we need to share things and be equal. We are not better than men in some things, we also do not need religion to oppress women any more, in whatever or whichever country they live in….get with the program or receive a multitude of two and one fingered salutes.
I live where I live in the part of the world which suits my cultural expressions. I am happy with these changes, I do not need religion to tell me what is correct and incorrect.
If a man has his children with him, he needs to go to the toilet with them, I would rather it be a mixed toilet. Common sense prevails!!
Please do not embarrass yourselves, complaining to all the restaurants, hotels and stadiums with these facilities. Well done, to those who brought this change. We are not living in apartheid!!!! I gave a valid reason, why I feel this change should have happened a long time ago. Well done, lets keep going. It means, we are living in a sort of equal society does it not?
Fair representation means, equal for all. Not just because you are a certain minority, or sex or, even a certain gender. It is about time we were accepted all as equals. Anything less gets my immediate two fingered salute…. because it is therapeutic.
I am able to express myself in a manner which is respectable and suits me as a person. I really have to say, I could not careless about your religion, and I could not careless about your cultural preferences. I am not the thought police. I am not going to kill people over their choices. It is against my laws of my land I am inhabiting now and the one I just came from.
If you cannot respect the laws of the land and people around you, then why on earth is it not okay for me to give you the two fingered salute?
If you are offended by the thought of people changing their gender, please do not move…stay right where you are. Be depressed, and live in a little bubble of hate. See how far it collapses your world and chances…. oh and do take note of how people behave towards you as you shut the door on them.
If you are offended at sharing a toilet with the opposite sex in public what the hell do you do at home? You have to admit you are kind of looking silly, flapping around being offended by integration. We are all humans and we all need things. Two fingered salute to those who prefer segregation….
“Let us all be separatist’s and hate the world for their ability to change their beliefs and their gender…” Says a self righteous person on a bit of a mission to hate.
Leading to my next strange question……
How can we stop the offended from killing themselves and other’s around them?
Yes, of course people are entitled to an opinion, but when certain people become so offended that they want to kill someone for wanting to make those choices… it makes me wonder, if, they have ever chose anything in their whole lives. This decision of these people making these gender changing decisions is huge.
“But because of my religious belief’s I only want a female doctor.”
“But I am a religious person and I cannot associate myself with that person.”
“I do not like their customs because they are not mine.”
If you get offended by the fact that someone is saving your life, then, clearly…..you are on a path to being too segregationist and maybe you should consider leaving the country in which you reside in because your decision means, you are committing suicide. Just use common sense before things get out of hand. You need to be flexible.
There are so many of you whom are offended, it makes me wonder if you can actually see you are creating this depression zone for yourselves. Please, snap out of it. Get talking to people. Widen your social circles and stop talking to only your own culture. Help people from different cultures and all walks of life. Goodness me, even non – religious humanitarians are more giving than religious people. Hence … your intolerance gets my two fingered salute.
Just for hating people’s right to choose means you get my two fingered salute and perhaps governments around the world should consider vetting people’s cultural aspects and if whether or not you can adjust to the life around you. May be they should do this, to preserve, protect and maintain some kind of order.
I never thought I may say this but a vetting process to prevent people from becoming secular in thought, sounds really hypocritical in a way… but it is exactly what is going to happen around the world. Globalisation has had it’s day and served a purpose, but now nationalisation is going to be stronger than ever before. Maybe they should, help people to find some home neighbouring country for some people to live in. I never thought that I would say it. Never in a million years but many societies are coming together and forming progressive stances on equality, if you cannot handle it then perhaps… globalisation has ended and perhaps people are progressing on collective nationalism. Perhaps this means, some whom are really offended, need to not fight, but, leave. Never in a million years have I actually thought people would be intolerant of one another to the extent of what I have seen in the last 2 years on the internet. It is sad and it is making people ill.
Maybe people are worried about not discriminating that they become offended for those who they think should be offended? Two fingered salute… please, stop worrying, the people you are trying not to offend will take offence to you not being honest. Then it continues this really embarrassing ball of nonsense. Relax, we cannot help those who do not want to accept things as they are.
Welcome to the 21st century and the new wave of nationalism and pride, where people, are all in it together: race, religion, background, gender and sexuality. I suppose we are not living in space yet and this is because, it offends someone!!!!!! It is time not to be offended but to be glad of the change. Embrace it and accept the new equality.