Note to self:
I was reading about vulnerability today. Psychologically we all fear something. Trust and boundaries create this very state of vulnerability. There have been a lot of studies involved in knowing whether or not we are vulnerable.
Being told the truth is also a state of vulnerability as 3 myths of Vulnerablity by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. (2012) states:
“Being vulnerable takes courage. But it’s worth it. It’s worth it to be ourselves, to connect to others. I worry when I put my writing – and thereby myself – out into the world. What will readers think? Is that sentence stupid? No, I don’t think so. OK. Maybe. Will they like the article? Will they hate it? Hate me?”
Thus relating Tartakovsky(2012) I feel as though my own worth is to connect with other’s to show my own strengths and weaknesses because of the fear of following absurdities. A dishonest person would not reveal themselves at any given point or time. They would just keep deferring what they need to say just to get you to not face your own reality.
I feel I agree with the 3 myths but I also feel through being able to share things with other’s, you find out other things.
– How to help yourself out of your situation;
– How not to be led astray;
– How to strengthen your vulnerable state.
If people witness your vulnerability and cannot handle the situation, adds given weight of their own status in life. I feel they are leaving you in the state of vulnerable in which they would not be able to handle themselves. They do this because they fear being rejected, or, they fear just the thought of being in the situation, or, they cannot relate to your circumstances at all. I feel this is what Tartakovsky, M.S. (2012), was trying to say with her myth: “some of us don’t experience vulnerability.”
So, when people get other’s to commit atrocities it is because they have never experienced vulnerability. They are just in a blanket state of being and they need to tune in to cognitive dissonance :
“Dissonance is most powerful when it is about our self-image. Feelings of foolishness, immorality and so on (including internal projections during decision-making) are dissonance in action.
If an action has been completed and cannot be undone, then the after-the-fact dissonance compels us to change our beliefs. If beliefs are moved, then the dissonance appears during decision-making, forcing us to take actions we would not have taken before.”
I feel when you are most vulnerable you are able to use this thought pattern to make you do things you feel you would not have taken before. So, to others – it is the sort of “atrocities” if you are in a state of wellbeing of committing foolish decisions because you feel vulnerable. However, your dissonance needs to empower and motivate you not to behave in an immoral foolish manner. It changes your beliefs, your outlook and the way you feel about yourself as Changing Minds. org (2015) explains:
“Cognitive dissonance is central to many forms of persuasion to change beliefs, values, attitudes and behaviors. The tension can be injected suddenly or allowed to build up over time. People can be moved in many small jumps or one large one.”
It is okay to feel vulnerable and it is okay for other’s to see you in a vulnerable state.
It’s okay to admit where you are at because you are actually preventing yourself from committing atrocities because you are able to reflect and have good moral insight. Time should be taken to either meditate on this motion of thought to give a more rational state of consciousness.
I feel through thoughts and even feelings we can judge whether or not someone is genuine: their whole demeanor, or, body language conveys intentions.
Festinger (1957) conveyed the pattern of thought during cognitive dissonance. You could say I am participating in this frame of thinking now. Where my whole though process is laid bare and I am exposing myself to the world through expression and thought.
It is okay for people to express themselves. The problem is when someone sees you in the state of thoughts or cognitive dissonance and are aware of your vulnerability – they take advantage of the situation. So, you end up believing in some false reality, being led by someone who is able to manipulate you because you haven’t been given ample time to reflect. This is especially crucial when people are unaware of their vulnerability for the first time – they begin to believe in false things because they are filled with the idea of being taken away from their vulnerable situation.
All in all it is just weird and wonderful how the brain works. Through my honesty I must be comfortable with myself enough not to believe in a false reality. I will not cause harm to others because of my state of thought process. As changing Minds (2015) further states:
“When you start feeling uncomfortable, stop and see if you can find the inner conflict. Then notice how that came about. If it was somebody else who put that conflict there, you can decide not to play any more with them.”
I feel we all have the choice to decide whether or not you want to follow someone. Our beliefs are the things which need to be reinforced by positive thinking not negative ones. Recognise when in the most vulnerable state, means other’s must practice the reflection with you. This is to reinforce good values and principles inside yourself so you do not follow a path which can actually alter your understanding of things, losing who you are in the process.
When other’s force their beliefs on you it is probably due to their resentment of their vulnerability which has caused them to have bitterness towards life. It is easy to think in a negative state when you are vulnerable. Finding positive people is becoming a task. We all need some form of reflection process to recover from vulnerability.
I just think it is weird and wonderful how: people are so vulnerable and some have not been vulnerable at all. I feel it is even more weird how other’s manipulate you to thinking in the process of a belief system which does make you do things which are harmful to other’s. However, it can be recovered through reflection.
We all have the power to change.
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